Let’s talk about self-care. You’ve probably heard about it but do you have a full understanding of what it entails? Self-care, in simple terms, is what you do to show yourself love. Self-care includes the actions that you do to express your love for yourself. Continue reading to learn how to really practice self-care.
Some Examples of Self-Care:
- Exercising and eating balanced meals because you care for the overall health of your body
- Going after your career and financial goals because you care about your aspirations and desires
- Meditating and reciting positive affirmations because you care about your spiritual health
- Seeing a counselor or speaking to loved ones about your feelings because you care about your mental health
- Calling a friend or spending time with family because you care about your social health
- Acknowledging and accepting your emotions because you care about your emotional health
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You can probably notice a theme here. Self-care is more than just a bubble bath or a face mask every other week. Self-care embodies the actions you do every day to ensure you are the best version of yourself. It is balancing all aspects of life; physical health, mental health, spiritual health, emotional health, social health, and your aspirations and desires. In order to be successful at balancing all aspects of life, you must do the work and actively implement practices that allow you to achieve your self-care goals.
It can be overwhelming and seem like a lot at first but when you break down each aspect, you will probably realize that you’ve already been practicing most of them and they are simpler than you think.
Let’s Break Down Each Aspect of Self-Care:
This aspect of self-care includes all things that pertain to your physical health. What you eat and drink and of course physical activity! Achieving this goal can be as simple as saying that you want to drink 8 glasses of water and go on an afternoon walk a day. Depending on your physical goals, this goal could vary and look very different depending on the person. It is essential to include physical goals into your self-care routine as it is a huge factor in showing your body that you love yourself!
Here Are Some Examples for Physical Health Goals:
- Go to the gym 3 times a week
- Have a vegetarian meal on Monday’s
- Do not eat sweets until the weekend
Mental health is a huge, under-discussed topic that is absolutely crucial to self-care. This aspect includes doing what makes you happy and mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. Many of us may have the belief that we are weak when we seek help from a therapist or counselor but that is not the case, in fact, it’s the opposite. The brain and mind is a complex entity and can be difficult to understand, it shows strength and power when someone decides to seek a professional for assistance with their mental health. If you are struggling with mental health issues and your self-help tactics aren’t working, I urge you to seek professional help. If you are struggling with suicide and are in the United States, call the suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255.
One thing to remember as it pertains to mental health is that you are not alone. If you can’t talk to your family, talk to your friends. If you can’t talk to your friends, talk to a professional. If you can’t afford a therapist or counselor, call or text the hotline. The point is, do not feel like you are alone and you’re not crazy.
Here Are Some Examples for Mental Health Goals:
- Social media break for 24 hours
- Schedule appointment with behavioral health specialist
- Read 1 chapter out of “Super Brain” by Deepak Chopra, M.D. & Rudolph E. Tanzi, PhD.
Spiritual health entails something you believe in that keeps you grounded. For some that is going to church and for others that could be meditation. Whatever your beliefs are, your spiritual health keeps you hopeful and maintains faith in your future. Spiritual health is also an aspect of self-care that holds you accountable for your actions.
Here Are Some Examples for Spiritual Health Goals:
- Repeat positive affirmations daily
- Meditate for 20 minutes every morning
- Manifest and speak goals into existence
Emotions, we all have them, no need to deny being human. The key to having healthy emotional health is to talk about your emotions and let your body feel how it feels. Emotions are just temporary and don’t last forever so if you’re sad, cry it out, if you’re angry, punch a pillow, and if you’re happy, SMILE. And for those people that don’t believe in showing your emotions because you’re scared of looking weak and vulnerable, we ALL have emotions and there’s no use in bottling them up.
One of my favorite things to tell people regarding emotions is the ancient Chinese philosophy, Yin Yang. Yin Yang, in simple terms, is the idea that opposites actually compliment one another and you cannot have one without the other. Dark and light, East and West, and Happy and Sad. You cannot truly know what it’s like to be happy if you’ve never allowed yourself to feel anger or sadness, just think about it! I love this philosophy because it applies to so much in life, especially emotions!
Here Are Some Examples for Emotional Health Goals:
- I will cry if I need to
- I know all emotions are temporary
- Be honest with myself and others about how I feel
Your social health is absolutely crucial to the overall care of yourself as we are social beings. We were meant to collaborate and rely on a community. We were not meant to go through life alone! It’s like that saying, it takes a village to raise a child, not only because children are a lot of work but because not one human on this earth should do life by themselves, including raising a life!
We need to connect with people, engage with people and collaborate with people. If you are more on the introverted side like myself, sometimes socializing can be draining and require more effort. But I still encourage you to engage with others any way you can even if it’s not in person. Although I feel that the interpersonal connection is best in person, social media and other technological resources are great as well!
Here Are Some Examples for Social Health Goals:
- Text friends “Happy Friday”
- Have family over for dinner
- Plan a picnic with friends and family
Aspirations and Desires
Your wants and desires are just as important as your basic needs. We are such intelligent beings that we want more out of life than food, water, and shelter. Do you have places you always wanted to travel to, a dream car you’ve always wanted to own, or an ideal career you envision yourself in? These are all examples of our aspirations and desires that shouldn’t be ignored! They give us something to look forward to or to work for even. In some cases, they can even be your purpose and passion in life.
As adults, but especially as mothers, we tend to push our dreams to the side as adulting and motherhood is difficult. But I encourage you to not give up on what you desire out of life, no matter how big. We only get one life, so why spend it doing things you don’t want to. The world is a big place filled with so much opportunity and endless possibilities, don’t settle for less; pursue your passions!
Here Are Some Examples for Aspirations and Desires:
- Goal map for a plan to live in another country
- Quit job and become a full-time entrepreneur
- Go on an eight month journey around the world
I hope that now you have a better understanding of the many aspects of self-care and how you can practice self-care. It is extremely multi-faceted and can look different for many people. Not only is self-care taking a bubble bath after a long stressful day at work, but self-care is also how you actively tend to your physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, social health, and desires. There is so much to self-care that you must actively practice it daily!
If you would like more assistance with planning your daily self-care goals, be sure to subscribe to get your FREE template! You can use it in its digital form and edit the entries according to your self-care goals in all aspects or you can print it to hang in your home to remind you daily to love yourself.
Thank you so much for reading!